Why is Grieving a Breakup or Divorce So Hard?

Although grieving the death of a loved one is difficult, the grief of a relationship loss is more complex. It's important to understand how this type of grief is different and what we can do to heal.

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How Do I Know if this Relationship is Right?


Ever wondered how to know if a relationship is right for you?

It’s a big one: is he the one I want to spend the rest of my life with? There are probably only a few other decisions that have such an impact on our happiness.

Considering the importance of this one, it’s amazing how little help we get in figuring out how to do it. Asking your partnered friends may result in advice like, ‘you just know’ or ‘you feel it or you don’t.’

In my groups for women going through breakup and divorce, I hear a lot of reflections on how people got together. Many women say they had a sense that it was what they should do, or that it was the best relationship they’d had so far, or that they assumed no one better would come along.

Surprisingly, we often make this decision without much awareness of how we're deciding, until it falls apart.

When we’ve been hurt by a divorce or breakup and are ready to risk getting close again, we’re usually in overdrive looking for red flags. The problem is, somehow the list of his troublesome qualities can begin to seem endless.

We’re all familiar with the prevailing wisdom that relationships take work. But how to sort out what relationship work is okay to accept and what isn’t? What parts of our issues are due to my (or his) baggage and what parts are real? Which red flags should I pay attention to and which should I let go?

Are you thinking, ‘yeah, those are good questions!?’

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I’ll share how I stopped the search for red flags and learned to feel my boundaries, navigating relationship from a more empowered place. I’ll talk about how to keep taking the next step in getting closer and then checking in with your heart. And I’ll touch on how I deal with one of life’s hard truths: that failing at this doesn’t mean you made the wrong decision.



How To Make Friends As An Adult

If you're over 25 you've probably found yourself thinking you could use a few new friends and feeling unsure about how to go about it. Whether you're starting over in a new city, married and looking for couples camping buddies, or slowly outgrowing your couch surfing bros, there's little guidance on how to go from meeting people to becoming friends.

One thing's for sure, it's normal. The older we get the more we rely on our friends, and for some of us they may even be our chosen family. It hurts when life transitions like getting married, having kids, or moving suddenly change established friendships.

But whether it's the sudden snub, the well-intentioned drift apart, or the consciously discussed ending it happens to just about everyone.

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