Self Esteem

Out Of the Office and Into the Wild: How Fasting In the Desert Helped Me Find Purpose

At the turn of the New Year 2012 I walked into the desert to make sense of my life. I've always felt at home in the desert; it calls me with its basin of sky, its harsh beauty, its way of mummifying the castles of dreamers. There is a challenge here for me to take up space in a way that confirms: I matter. It seemed a fitting place for my Vision Quest, a spiritual journey in the wilderness spent fasting for three days and four nights in a remote spot, alone.

Since my divorce and return from living in East Africa a few years before, I had been steadily dismantling the life I had built in service of becoming a psychotherapist. Years of living in survival mode juggling grad school and jobs, spending down my savings as I worked six day weeks, and returning to intern status had taken their toll. I was exhausted and sinking into self doubt. In my relationship, too, I faced a turning point; whether to take the next step or to let go.

I sought answers to these questions; what direction should my life take? What's my purpose? What's getting in my way?

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How To Make Friends As An Adult

If you're over 25 you've probably found yourself thinking you could use a few new friends and feeling unsure about how to go about it. Whether you're starting over in a new city, married and looking for couples camping buddies, or slowly outgrowing your couch surfing bros, there's little guidance on how to go from meeting people to becoming friends.

One thing's for sure, it's normal. The older we get the more we rely on our friends, and for some of us they may even be our chosen family. It hurts when life transitions like getting married, having kids, or moving suddenly change established friendships.

But whether it's the sudden snub, the well-intentioned drift apart, or the consciously discussed ending it happens to just about everyone.

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