Therapy for women who want to be fierce about loving themselves

Many women who start therapy already have a lot of inner strength and resourcefulness. From the outside they may look like they’re doing okay, seeing friends and going to work. No one may know that they’re struggling inside. Like anyone, they want to be happy and well in their lives and, for periods of time, they can convince themselves that they’re alright. Often, they feel like they’re doing something wrong when their symptoms just won’t go away.

Does this sound familiar?

Of course, it’s normal to use your mind to try to feel better. And why not? Well meaning family and friends may tell you to just stay positive, and your Facebook feed is certainly full of articles on the topic.

Sometimes it works for a while to convince yourself that you can just move on after difficult experiences. But the problem is that, eventually, your body 'speaks' through symptoms like panic attacks, anxiety, depression, addictions, or exhaustion.

Whether you understand the reason for these symptoms or feel confused and at a loss about why they are happening, they often provide the wake-up call that you may need to begin to look deeper.

Our bodies tell us the truth about how we need to heal.

The good news is that when we pay attention to our body's wisdom, over time it is possible to heal so that our system 'distress signals' lessen or stop altogether.

And here's where the fierceness on the road to loving yourself comes in.

You don't want to be that seemingly okay woman going through the motions anymore. To live the authentic, vibrant, healthy, and connected life that you want, you're ready to pay attention to your healing on a deeper level. You want to look at what's happened so that you can shift patterns that have a high cost in your life.

We'll work together in individual therapy to help you begin to do the deeper work of healing:

Attune to the ways you've been hurt and the beliefs you've developed to try to protect yourself

Relate to parts of yourself that you find hard to like with more acceptance

Understand the role of early attachment and how it impacts your relationships now

Allow feelings and difficult emotions without being overwhelmed or embarrassed

Identify outdated family rules and roles, let them go, and begin to live your own authentic life

Own your part in your relationship dynamics

Develop more curiosity and awareness of your patterns and practice new ways of relating

Explore the ways your nervous system responded to danger and tried to protect you and the behaviors that help you cope 

Mindfully access and heal traumas that continue to keep you stuck

Let's get started!

Contact me to explore whether individual therapy is a good fit.

therapy for women healing from breakups, separation & divorce

Ending your marriage or relationship, whether by choice or not, is one of the most difficult and confusing life transitions.

Whether you're trying to leave or cope with the process of being left, you're probably experiencing a lot of hurt and anxiety. You may be fed up with the anger, walking on eggshells, betrayal, lack of intimacy, or emotional distance and aware that something has to change.

But as soon as you try to make a change, difficult thoughts and feelings come up:

What if I end up alone?

Maybe there's still hope that he'll change.

How can I do this to my kids?

I don't have the right to hurt him like this.

Please don't leave me!!

These feelings can be so overwhelming that you find yourself doing just about anything to stop them. Or you get caught in a constant inner dialogue arguing both sides and end up confused about which thoughts to trust. 

Before you know it you're stuck. And as if that isn't hard enough, then you feel bad about yourself for not being strong.

As women, we're vulnerable to this pattern. Our personal histories, reinforced by cultural norms, often make it challenging for us to stay attuned to our inner voice in the face of another's conflicting needs.

The good news is that there is hope for breaking out of this exhausting cycle.

Imagine being able to connect with your own inner wisdom about what's best for you.

To trust yourself to make decisions based on what's right rather than stay stuck out of fear, and to be kind to yourself when you stumble on your journey (as most humans do!)

As you begin to develop more awareness of your needs and boundaries in relationship, things change. You stop abandoning yourself. You feel more connected to what you want when making big life decisions. You can stay grounded when upset so that you can make different choices.

Healing is possible when you become fierce about loving yourself.

We'll work together in individual therapy to help you begin to develop these building blocks for fierce self love:

Connecting with your own inner wisdom about what's best for you

Learning to befriend parts of you that are scared or anxious

Attuning to and valuing your needs and boundaries

Taming your inner critic and negative self talk

Developing mindfulness tools for working with anxiety

Identifying outdated family rules and roles and letting them go

Working with strong difficult emotions

Transforming your self image by changing your habits

Let's Get Started!

Contact me to explore whether individual therapy is a good fit.

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