Why Your Relationship May Not Be Headed Towards Marriage
Pay close attention to how your partner references you in his/her future.
If you really want to know how your partner feels about your relationship, pay close attention to the words they're saying. When they talk about the future, do they use "I" or "me" a lot or do they use "we" and "us"? As Jodie Stein, MFT, therapist who specializes in relationships, tells Bustle, "Watch for signs in your partner’s thinking by listening to how they're factoring you into their life."
For instance, do they consider you when making plans on the weekend, bigger life decisions, or family trips? "Some degree of merging is necessary to move towards marriage," Stein says. If they're saying, "I can't wait to spend the holidays with my family" instead of "I can't wait for us to spend the holidays with my family," it shows they may not see you as part of their future just yet.