Hi! I'm Jodie Stein.

The Short Story

I’m a therapist who helps women in transition to be fierce about loving themselves so that they can fully shine in their lives. I’ve been an adventurer on the path of personal growth and awakening for over 20 years and have learned a ton about what creates lasting inner change.

Professionally, I have a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m a licensed psychotherapist (MFT #80125) with clinical training and experience in attachment focused, body based therapies, mindfulness, and healing developmental trauma.

I believe that therapy can provide the doorway to create a more authentic life full of connection, purpose, and aliveness. To find out how it did for me, keep reading.

The Long Story

There I was, sitting on the borrowed twin bed in my Craigslist apartment. It was a Saturday so, of course, my housemates were out with friends. I was 35, in the middle of a divorce and jobless. I had given up our lovely, overpriced apartment, my cat, and the full, new life that I had started overseas.

I was alone; desperately, panicky, adult-world alone.

Suddenly in this awful moment came a thought: 

"This wasn't supposed to happen to me! I followed all the rules!"

To part of me this thought felt true, kind of like the anger and injustice of working hard in school and getting an F anyway. At the same time I knew it made no sense.

But my confusion made me take notice and get curious enough to ask myself some monumental questions: 

Who's rules was I actually following? Where had they gotten me in life? Were they right for me? And if not, how could I discover my own?

This pivotal moment in the midst of the emotional crisis of my divorce paved the way for my career as a therapist. 

I began to define my own rules, to explore the impact of the one's I'd been taught and never questioned, and to grieve the costs.

Through therapy, an intensely personal Master's program in psychology, and body based practices, I started waking up to the patterns and roles I'd learned in my family.

With time, I learned to value my own needs, to trust the wisdom of my body, to set boundaries, and to build a relationship of acceptance with parts of myself that were hard to like.

I discovered how to be fierce about loving myself and how to follow my own rules. This has brought more joy, energy, aliveness, play, purpose, and connection into my life than I ever imagined sitting on my twin bed that day.

Granted, fierce self love is not always easy. It has asked me to make hard choices and to have courage rather than stay put out of fear. But I've learned that I can trust myself to do what's right and how to create support for myself during the storm. And that feels pretty powerful!

As a therapist my passion is to help women build these tools for inner resilience.

I believe that these are the key ingredients that many of us need to create more fulfilling, authentic lives.

Transitions such as breakups, separation/divorce, becoming married, or differentiating from our family of origin, are often the crisis events that force us to confront our self love deficits and also provide the doorway for deeper change.

I believe that we need to learn to be fierce about our growth in those places where we are vulnerable to losing our inner voice in the face of another's needs.

There is no one-size fits all to-do-list, but I know the road.

As a therapist I bring into our sessions my creativity, heart, humor, and a commitment to facilitating lasting change. I'll be active in helping you see stuck places and old patterns so that you can grow.

My style is down to earth, warm, and sometimes a little sassy. I bring my heart and my humanness to our work together.

You have the choice to create an authentic life that you love and to be here fully for it, with your heart, your head, and your body.

Let's start now.

Hi There.

I want to let you know that it's normal to wonder what we'll do in therapy and how it actually works, especially if this is your first experience.

So that you're more comfortable, I'd like to tell you a bit about what it's like to work with me.

How we'll work together

I offer an attachment focused, body centered, and mindfulness based approach to psychotherapy, which allows for powerful, lasting inner shifts in the patterns and self limiting beliefs that keep you stuck. Although insight into your patterns is important and may be our first step, simply telling your ‘story’ is not always enough.

Our first few sessions are important for me to learn more about you, what you'd like to work on, and for you to feel understood and comfortable. We'll set goals together and I'll share my sense of what I think we'll need to explore.

Then we’ll slow down and help you begin to connect to the places where change happens. Developing mindfulness, noticing what it’s like to be with your internal experience without trying to change it, is an important first step. I may invite you to be aware of thoughts, body sensations, images, memories, or feelings that arise as you’re talking.

We’ll get curious about the ways your nervous system responds to overwhelming situations and tries to protect you, the ways you continue to become activated to fight, flight, or freeze, and the behaviors that help you cope. We’ll work to develop internal resources – a place to land in yourself – that can help you heal and release the impact of trauma or difficult experiences.

We’ll explore the self limiting beliefs that may have developed into an identity and their costs in your life now. At your own pace, we’ll work to create moments in our sessions where you can actually take in a different experience. As you begin to truly internalize new beliefs about yourself shifts tend to happen in your life.

How Therapy works

Guess what? Part of how this change actually happens is through the relationship you and I develop each week in therapy. That’s right! What makes therapy different than going to other service providers is that, ideally, you can let yourself risk feeling connected to me in a way that may not feel safe to do with friends, partners, family, or maybe even ever before in your life.

Although therapy is a relationship with certain important boundaries, I do let myself truly care about you! My goal is to be present in our sessions in the most human and honest way that I can.

In a way, this makes sense. We get hurt in relationships, often when we're young, and we develop strategies to protect ourselves from ever feeling that way again. So, it’s natural that we need to heal again in a new kind of relationship. One where it's safe to explore the old patterns and begin to trust that we can do it differently now.

Some of the most important and transformative moments in therapy can happen when these patterns actually come up again right here in our session.

We’ll explore your patterns together, without judgment, so that you can become more aware of the ways they likely play out in your life. And you’ll get to experience a different response than you may have gotten before, which helps to create a new sense of safety and permission for your authentic self.

That may sound a little scary and you may be wondering if it will be hard.

I believe that therapy is a balance of support and challenge. Sometimes, when you’re going through big changes in your life, the volume is already ‘turned up’ on the challenge and therapy may need to be all support for quite a long time. That’s perfectly okay.

At other times, when your life is steady you may be open to more challenge in order to grow. Often it’s a balance between the two from week to week.

Sometimes therapy does feel hard. Shifting old patterns requires you to be vulnerable and that’s emotional work. We’ll find the right pace together that supports your growth without you feeling overwhelmed.

How you'll know if therapy is working.

It’s hard to describe, but therapy is one of those things that when it’s working you’ll just know.

The way you relate to your self will change.

What it feels like to be you will feel better.

With time, you may notice that your capacity to allow aliveness, joy, and connection into your life increases.

FAQ's

How do you work?

I offer an attachment focused, body centered, and mindfulness based approach to psychotherapy, which allows for powerful, lasting inner shifts in the patterns and self limiting beliefs that keep you stuck. Although insight into your patterns is important and may be our first step, simply telling your 'story' is not always enough. To learn more about what therapy sessions with me will actually be like check out my How I Work page.

What type of experience do you have?

I'm a licensed MFT #80125 in the State of California. I have a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco.

I'm committed to continued growth, both in my professional and personal life, to be the best therapist I can be. Professionally, I'm trained in EMDR and Hakomi, and regularly consult with psychodynamic and somatic therapists.

It's important to me to stay grounded and nurture myself too. I've been practicing mindfulness for more than 15 years and am usually engaged in some type of personal growth work, including my own therapy, nature based retreats, and just good old fun!

How often will I need to come?

I believe that it's important to come to therapy at least weekly in order for it to work well. Imagine going to the gym every other week and then being frustrated that your body isn't changing! Coming weekly isn't just arbitrary, like with your physical body, it's important to train the 'muscles' of your psyche frequently enough for change to happen.

How long will I need to be in therapy?

Many people who have acute symptoms or are in crisis begin to feel better within the first few weeks of beginning therapy. Generally though, you'll need to commit to at least six months to one year to notice lasting changes. Sometimes it takes longer, and many people stay in therapy for many years to get to the root of lifelong issues or as a means of continued personal growth.

We'll talk about this together and I'll let you know what I think. Ultimately, how long you stay in therapy is always your decision.

How much does it cost?

My fee is $170 for a 50 minute session.

Therapy is an investment in yourself. The way I think about it is: this is for my soul. I want to be well and grow in these areas that ultimately impact every part of my life and happiness.

You are welcome to pay for your sessions with a credit card, check, or cash.

Do you take insurance?

I'm an out-of-network provider for all insurance companies. Most will reimburse some percentage of your therapy directly to you. It's a good idea to call them to find this out before we start therapy. I'm glad to give you the specific type of bill or receipt that your insurance company requires.

Do you work with men too?

Yes! I focus on women because my own life experiences help me connect with women in transition, but I enjoy working with men too.

I particularly like working with men who identify as the caretaker or struggle with a feeling of not wanting to disappoint people.

What is fierce self love? Isn't that selfish?

Simply put, self love is like self-fullness. It means filling up your Self from the inside.

That's not the same as being selfish. In fact, I believe that only when you love yourself can you truly be generous, because you are able to value your own needs as much as those of others. From this place your 'yes' is really a yes! You have the choice to honor your own needs, compromise, or give fully to others without resentment. The more you there is, the more you have to give.

Being fierce about self love is a way to put it into action.

It's a practice that can help us remember when we are working to heal self love deficits and learn new patterns.